A Joyous Sacrament
Congratulations on your engagement and upcoming marriage. It is a special vocation – one in which you will grow in the type of love and holiness of which you can only imagine at the moment. I am very proud for you both. You may be asking what you must do to be married here in the university chapel.
To get started, please fill out the wedding form below to contact the contact the Princeton University Chapel administrator Liz Powers and Fr. Gabe Zeis with your request. Click here for more information, including fees, scheduling, parking, and music.
Here’s what comes next.
1. Talk to your local priest at the parish you are attending-telling them that you plan on being married here at Princeton. Enter your parish’s marriage preparation program. This will include securing certain documents for the priest (birth certificate, baptismal records, FOCCUS exam, Freedom to Marry Forms, PNI – don’t worry, your priest will know and help you with all of these)
2. You will probably meet with your priest several times (3-5) to talk about this new change in your lives, and he’ll recommend a marriage workshop day (either Pre-Cana, or Engaged Encounter. Alternatively, your diocese may have additional requirements).
3. Pray and talk with your priest, or a priest you are close too, about the possibility of his coming to campus with you to perform the wedding ceremony.
4. Provide your priest with the name of our diocese here – (unless you both are residents of the diocese of Trenton) – and he’ll mail your file to his diocese; they will mail it to ours; they will ensure that a copy comes here at the University (the address here is Rev. Bryan Page. Aquinas Institute. 24 Charlton Street. Princeton, NJ 08540)
5. Arrive to be wed with your priest, family, and friends.
If your priest is unable or unwilling to come to campus to perform your wedding ceremony, there is still hope. As the chaplain here, my responsibility, pastoral care, and assignment from the bishop is to the current students at Princeton. Although that is my main charge, if my summer work schedule and responsibilities permit, I will also try to help couples by performing their ceremony. However, when this is done, I ask to meet the couples at least 1 time prior to their wedding day. (I do not, however, perform marriage prep meetings with folks that are not current students at the university – those meetings must be done by the couple with their local priest and all paperwork forwarded as indicated above).
6. Fees for using the chapel or other Princeton University facilities go to the university and are not shared with Aquinas. We are happy to be part of your wedding. If you want to give us remuneration, it will support Aquinas activities on campus. And, who knows, your donation could support Aquinas events where other couples meet.
Congratulations. I hope this year is a year of joy and blessings for you both.